A Journey of Love and Growth: Shan Boodram's Story of Finding the Perfect Match

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Shan Boodram, a certified sex educator and intimacy expert, recounts her journey of finding love with her husband Jared. Despite initially planning a casual friends-with-benefits arrangement, they fell deeply in love and are now married with two children. Boodram attributes her background in sexology and Jared's openness to her work as key factors in their successful relationship. They started by regularly meeting for dates, exploring new places, and trying different activities together. As their relationship progressed, they moved in together, and eventually got married.

Key Takeaways:

  • Boodram and Jared initially planned a casual friends-with-benefits arrangement, but their feelings for each other grew over time.
  • Boodram's background in sexology helped her communicate her boundaries and needs effectively in the relationship.
  • Jared was drawn to Boodram's work and respected her expertise, creating a strong foundation for their relationship.
  • The couple prioritized communication and authenticity, allowing them to navigate challenges and build a deeper connection.
  • After getting married, they settled into a routine with their children, appreciating the simplicity and presentness of their relationship.
  • Their favorite dates now involve spending quality time with each other while the kids sleep, with a focus on relaxation and connection.

Statistics:

  • Boodram and Jared were in a casual friends-with-benefits arrangement for about 8 months before realizing their feelings for each other.
  • Boodram had a hiking buddy, a cuddle buddy, and a deep conversation buddy, but was lacking a sex partner before meeting Jared.
  • The couple spent a month in an FWB arrangement before Boodram invited Jared to stay with her while she was away, marking a significant shift in their relationship.
  • They spent a year in an FWB arrangement before Jared moved in with Boodram, helped her through a bedbug infestation, and then moved into a nicer apartment with her.
  • Boodram and Jared are now married with two children, ages one and three.

Sources:

  • [Bumble's sex and relationships expert Shan Boodram on how to stay intimate after having kids](https://www.bumble.com/press/2019/05/15/shan-booDRam-intimacy-after-having-kids)
  • [Shan Boodram's podcast "Lovers and Friends"](https://www.eotify.com/podcast/lover-and-friend/)